The Man of My Dreams

The Man of My Dreams

A Novel

Book - 2006
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"In her acclaimed debut novel, Prep, Curtis Sittenfeld created a touchstone with her pitch-perfect portrayal of adolescence. Her prose is as intensely realistic and compelling as ever in The Man of My Dreams, a disarmingly candid and sympathetic novel about the collision of a young woman’s fantasies of family and love with the challenges and realities of adult life. Hannah Gavener is fourteen in the summer of 1991. In the magazines she reads, celebrities plan elaborate weddings; in Hannah’s own life, her parents’ marriage is crumbling. And somewhere in between these two extremes–just maybe–lie the answers to love’s most bewildering questions. But over the next decade and a half, as she moves from Philadelphia to Boston to Albuquerque, Hannah finds that the questions become more rather than less complicated: At what point can you no longer blame your adult failures on your messed-up childhood? Is settling for someone who’s not your soul mate an act of maturity or an admission of defeat? And if you move to another state for a guy who might not love you back, are you being plucky–or just pathetic? None of the relationships in Hannah’s life are without complications. There’s her father, whose stubbornness Hannah realizes she’s unfortunately inherited; her gorgeous cousin, Fig, whose misbehavior alternately intrigues and irritates Hannah; Henry, whom Hannah first falls for in college, while he’s dating Fig; and the boyfriends who love her more or less than she deserves, who adore her or break her heart. By the time she’s in her late twenties, Hannah has finally figured out what she wants most–but she doesn’t yet know whether she’ll find the courage to go after it. Full of honesty and humor, The Man of My Dreams is an unnervingly insightful and beautifully written examination of the outside forces and personal choices that make us who we are."--Inside jacket.
Publisher: New York : Random House, c2006
Edition: 1st ed
Branch Call Number: FICTION SIT
Characteristics: 272 p. ; 24 cm


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Dec 22, 2018

I love other work by this author. The difficulty I had with this one was the main character: Hannah was (and probably still is) an irritating malcontent. Misfits and strugglers, I can root for, but an unrelenting and un-self-aware wet blanket - ugh. People who cared about her kept trying to help her but she remained rigid and focused on the negative. I read to the end not because of her, but because I wanted to see what happened to the other characters.

shokolit Feb 26, 2018

It took me a few pages to really get into the story. But once I did, I enjoyed it very much. Hannah, the main character of the story, is relatable (if somewhat annoying sometimes), and so is the story of her evolvement from a teenager to a young woman.

May 09, 2016

A very good book, although sometimes Hannah can be a bit abrupt and harsh, but on the other hand, that's what makes her so interesting.

Aug 08, 2015

A very good book. So honest. So insightful. I will read her 1st book & anything else she writes. I recommend this author.

Dec 20, 2011

Don't let the pre-teen-style cover fool you: This book is filled with insightful and mature vignettes that are written with an attentive eye for detail and frank honesty. Women will relate to much of protagonist Hannah's experiences, and everyone will enjoy this vivid read about coming of age and finding love.

ksoles May 19, 2011

Although this book bears a banal and generic title, Curtis Sittenfeld's second novel, "The Man of My Dreams," is almost as enjoyable as her first ("Prep," 2005). When the book opens, 14-year-old Hannah Gavener is grappling with her mother's decision to stand up to her controlling father. The storyline follows Hannah through college and afterwards as she tries to find the kind of romance she believes she desires. As is so often the case in life, things don't quite work out according to plan; as a result, this novel rings completely true, vividly capturing a young woman's anxiety and confusion about finding love and direction.

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Nov 25, 2012

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